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Wedding Invitation Etiquette: How to Address Wedding Invitations


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Wedding Invitation Etiquette: How to Address Wedding Invitations

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Learn how to address your wedding invitations with ease. It can be difficult to know the proper rules of wedding invitation etiquette, but we've broken it down for you with this handy chart. You will be able to easily navigate any type of situation you may come across when the time comes to address your invitations. The list of things to do when you're planning a wedding can seem endless, so it's nice to have all the wedding invitation etiquette you need all in one convenient place. It has never been easier to find the right way to send invitations to your family members and friends. The invitation is one of the first impressions your guests will have of your wedding, so you want to make sure you start off with a bang - and we can help!



  1. If you are putting a middle name, spell it out. Do not just include an initial. This helps personalize the invitation.
  2. The word and used to only apply to married couples. It is no longer this way. However, if you would like to stick with tradition, you can put the two names on separate lines without an and.
  3. The male's name usually comes first unless the female outranks the male. You can also put the names in alphabetical order, if you would rather.

Outer and Inner envelopes are an old-fashioned tradition that is getting less common. Inner envelopes are used so that the guest receives a fresh envelope should the outer envelope get dirty or torn in trasit. The outer envelope gives all informaton needed by the Postal Service, and the inner envelope spells out who is invited. If you are only using one envelope, include all guests. For example:

Ms. Jaclyn Beth and Guest                  
2456 Spring Street                              
Davenport, Iowa 45454                        
Mr. and Mrs. Frank Shime
Brad, Daniel, and Junior
4598 South Market Street
Burbank, Illinois 67945                                      

  1. Guests over 18 should receive their own invitations, even if they are living at home and their parents are invited.
  2. The inner envelope can also use first names. For example: Frank and Samantha Shime or Frank and Samantha
  3. If you cannot fit both names on one line, use the and before the second name on the next line and indent it.

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How to Address Wedding Invitations



Outer Envelope

Inner Envelope

Unmarried Female Under 18 Miss Jaclyn Beth Miss Beth
Unmarried Female Ms. Jaclyn Beth Ms. Beth
Unmarried Female with Guest Ms. Jaclyn Beth Ms. Beth and Guest
Unmarried Male Mr. Clay Matthew Mr. Matthew
Unmarried Male with Guest Mr. Clay Matthew Mr. Matthew and Guest
Unmarried Couple Living Together

Mr. James Apton and Ms. Stella Mackey
(male first)
Mr. James Apton
Ms. Stella Mackey
(listed alphabetically)

Mr. Apton and Ms. Mackey
Divorced Woman Keeping
Married Name
Mrs. or Ms. Jazline Frank Mrs. or Ms. Frank
Divorced Woman Changed
Ms. Jazline Wargio Ms. Wargio

Mrs. George Francis
Mrs. Jane Francis

Mrs. Francis

Married Couple with Same
Last Name
Mr. and Mrs. Frank Shime Mr. and Mrs. Shime
Married Couple with Same
Last Names and Children
Mr. and Mrs. Frank Shime Mr. and Mrs. Shime
Brad, Daniel, and Junior
Married Couple with Different
Last Names
Mr. Frank Shime and Mrs. Jane Boz Mr. Shime and Mrs. Boz
Married Couple with Different
Last Names and Children
Mr. Frank Shime and Mrs. Jane Boz Mr. Shime and Mrs. Boz
Brad, Daniel, and Junior
Same Sex Couple Mr. Scott Hamilton and Mr. Sean Hert Mr. Hamilton and Mr. Hert
Married Couple, Both Doctors The Doctors Applebaum Doctors Mark and Julie Applebaum
Married Couple, Both Doctors,
Different Last Names
Doctor Laura Dorner and Doctor Joe Oh
(female first)
Doctor Dorner and Doctor Oh
Married Couple, Wife is Doctor Doctor Laura Oh and Mr. Joe Oh Doctor Oh and Mr. Oh
Married Couple, Wife is a Commissioned
Captain Laura Oh and Mr. Joe Oh Captain Oh and Mr. Oh
Married Couple, Husband is a Commissioned
Colonel and Mrs. Joe Oh Colonel and Mrs. Oh
Married Couple, Husband is a Judge The Honorable and Mrs. Joe Oh Judge and Mrs. Oh
Married Couple, Wife is a Judge The Honorable Laura Dorner and Mr. Joe Oh

Judge Dorner and Mr. Oh

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This is very good idea. Couples, you should read this first before they finalize the invitation. It's always appropriate to stick to tradition and follow its rules to the letter. If you cannot follow it then by all means you can do it your way. No one will blame you for it. You can always do it according to your budget and preference.


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